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Traditions and others
I started reading books and magazines about weddings to have an idea of what needs to be done. Oh dear! There is so much more than I thought! And this is just to arrange the venue and a date, not to mention paperwork. We have to think about food, cutlery, chairs, decoration, licenses, money, guests, times, dates, etc, etc, etc. And then there is the photographer, the dress, the rings, the cake, the invitations, … It never ends!
The major problem for me at the moment is the fact that I’m foreign and traditions are not the same. Some of them are mutually exclusive so I can’t have a bit of Portuguese tradition on my wedding. But the major part is the things I don’t really know and are not in the books because people are supposed to know them. We are supposed to give presents to the brides maids, and the best man? And the mother of the bride? Is it flowers? Does she have to have a special outfit? Who pays for it? What are the rules? And corsages? Help!!!!!!!!! Some places say one thing, the others say another and then I see ideas for things I didn’t even know were necessary!
I need to go and see an English wedding! The only one I’ve been to in England was Muslim so it doesn’t help.
Anybody getting married soon? 
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O casamento é teu, se queres um pouco de tradição portugesa tens mais é que introduzir e mais nada.
Quanto a outros detalhes, por exemplo, o bolo do meu estava incluido no restaurante, não tive que tratar de nada.
É muito giro planear um casamento, parece-me é que quanto mais se pôem a ler a teoria mais em pânico entram e menos se viram para a preparação própriamente dita.
Já sabem com que antecedência devem tratar de algumas coisas?
Só te digo uma coisa: acho que se não fosse casada não casava
depois de ler estas linhas…
Preparem tudo como manda a lei (daí, né?) mas não se esqueçam de uma coisa: este dia é vosso e tem que ter o que vocês querem. É um dia para vocês e não para os outros.
Bjokas
Precisamente por nao fazer ideia de como as coisas funcinam ca e que tenho que ler. Ha sitios em que nem as cadeiras e mesas estao incluidas, por isso temos que saber o que perguntar nos varios sitios. A primeira coisa a fazer e isso mesmo: Sitio e data e o que e que inclui. O resto vem depois.
E vai ser como nos queremos. Mas o que eu quero e que as pessoas se sintam tao bem quanto eu
Beijos
Stop panicking! Our presents for bridesmaids were there necklaces for the actual wedding, and for the ushers / best man, they had a swiss army knife keyring set I think, or a torch set… don’t know if Russ still has his. Bugger the traditions, no-one particularly sticks by them, especially receiving lines… just do what you want to do. If you want to have a chip van park on the car park and serve fish and chips, then do it (I nearly did!) if you don’t want bridesmaids, then don’t have them. Seriously, and don’t worry about ‘offending’ people, cos if you do you will go blimmin’ bonkers let me tell you. Wait till you get to seating plans, and then panic!!! LMAO It’s *your* day, *your* wedding, and it’s what *you* want. That can all get lost in worrying about everyone else and not yourself.
Loves ya
Steph xxx
Oh, and babelfish doesn’t translate very well, but I think Vanda said something similar, and I do think you should incorporate some portugese traditions if you can. Sorry Russ, but lets face it, weddings are 80% about the bride!!!! LOL
Thanks for the comments, you are both very right. It was mostly the initial panic and getting used to the idea. You know my opinion on weddings
Now that I started the work I’m getting a pretty good idea of what I want and don’t want on the wedding. And most of all I’m actually enjoying it. It’s starting to be good fun
No doubt there will be stress times, but in the end it’s all about Russ and me. (mostly me
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